I know the weekend isn't over yet, but it has been a while since I wrote it on this blog (err, yes, I do have several hidden blogs). I was in the middle of watching "500 days of Summer" when I decided to online and blog. How are you all doing this weekend? I hope you're in good shape, because during the last two weeks I wasn't. Maybe it's the weather, maybe it's the emotion, but whatever it is I felt less than 50% and had to take 2 day-off during the time. Several colleagues of mine are also not in good shape, hmmm... I think air conditioner in office building is as filthy as an old kitchen of chinese food restaurants. I don't care how old the office building is, but when it contains almost a thousand of people every single day, yet only being cleaned not thoroughly... well, it becomes an ugly source of diseases, don't you think? I do hope the office management would consider to have air purifier one day. This is all based on my experience, that whenever I feel sick and nauseous... I'd stay away from the office and choose to have a bed rest at home, and voila! the next day I am good as I was before.
This weekend, my friend got married far away in South area, near where the orang utans live... hehehe, yes, it was in Ragunan area. Well, what planned to be an afternoon occasion ended up as a private lunch of four in a chinese food restaurant. Lols. But I am not complaining. I did had a good time today; got stuck in traffic jam, meeting the bride & groom in their family private function, having late lunch at Mandala Jl. Wolter Monginsidi (which didn't have their price printed on the menu. Grrr!), and serving in video booth.
See, here is the interesting part... The people who I spent time with today weren't my "primary" friends, if you know what I mean. We all have "primary", "secondary", "tertiary" friends in our head. When we spend time with our primary friends we expect to have good times for sure, because we know that primary friends are always "click" with us and try their best to understand us. "Primary" friends could also mean important people that you think matter/ mean the most to you. When we hang out with our "secondary" friends, we don't expect anything; we become less demanding, less understanding, and less focused. With our "secondary" friends, we become ourselves, but putting aside most of our personal baggage (problems, dilemma, deep thoughts- those are saved for "primary" friends). With this note, sometimes spending time with secondary friends can be light and entertaining, as well as surprising. We might obtain details that we never see before from other perspective. Like my pastor said today, "spending time with more people means spending less private time". Although we may know a person for a long time, but if we always meet them in big group, we might never truly know them. So, that's why I enjoyed today.
I always think of myself as a "secondary friend", a second-class citizen, a black horse. I know there are numbers of people who consider me as "primary friend", but they're just a bunch. I am not popular in the society. My timidness and unwillingness to keep an interest on people make people less interested in me. That "you keep your business and I'll keep mine" principal always works for me. Since I don't care about most people's lives and most people's opinions, they don't care about mine, too. I am one of the people that is hard to be loved (but actually need it anyway). Lols.
Three indications that you are a "secondary friend" for someone:
1. They walk or talk with you, until they find the star of the night
2. They do not know what you like and will not bother to ask
3. They can turn their back at anytime according to public point of view of you. If people like you, they will like you. If people hate you, they will avoid you.
Have a great weekend, all :)
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